Monday, January 4, 2010

Lament of a concerned Indian!

The death of Nitin Garg, an Indian, working in Australia didn’t come as a surprise to me. It was to happen soon. My biggest surprise is that we Indians still want to get out of our own country and settle down in such places after being fully aware of such incidents.

Personally, my own childhood friend lost his eyesight due to a racial attack in Australia a couple of years ago and I was devastated. Being my own age, he had his entire life ahead of him. Even if it weren’t his own choice to go settle down abroad, his dad got a job offer which he couldn’t decline.

What is it that we Indians do not get here which entices so many thousands and lakhs of the citizens to move out? Is it the dough, the standard of living, pride or what? Frankly, I have not stepped out of my country in the 23 years of my living, which may not qualify me to talk about this topic, but after seeing so many incidents, reading about them and so on, my questions and curiosity just keep mounting!

When I was 15 or so, a whole bunch of older guys and girls in my apartment left their homes to pursue their higher education abroad. The whole apartment went silent and for about a few months, it felt eerie actually. Most of the fun was lost. However, there emerged two sets of parents, both proud of course! One not worried about the tons of money which has gone in the form of education fees and so on, but just the sheer pride of being able to tell everyone else that their sons or daughters were studying in an elite school. The other set, proud yes, but worried if all the savings spent on sending the kids would reap them any benefits, if any.

They are all well settled now but then the yearning to come back to their own country and homes is seen quite clearly. Initially after completing their education, they’d definitely want to stay back for some years to get back what they invested or maybe more. But at what mental and emotional cost?

Other than corruption controlling the country, I frankly think our country lacks nothing. You can walk on the streets with absolutely no fear of being attacked just ‘because you’re NOT FAIR! Here in India, only women cannot get out after a certain time for the fear of being raped or whatever. In other countries, even our much revered men have to watch their backs! Men are treated like God here and there, worse than a dog!

So what if you get a salary in mere Indian rupees? So what if you have to walk down the street and buy veggies in a broken wooden gaadi? It is not about earning in dollars or pounds, going to a mall every other day and being able to afford a Gucci or a Louis Vitton. When you’re not well, it’s about getting that hot cup of chai from your loved one and not having to make one yourself.

And why choose countries which are known for racial discrimination? Half the society must be behind bars by now for all the atrocity done. There’s no point in pointing fingers at wasted people. We’d rather live where we belong, where we are wanted and where there are no uncalled-for fears.

The direct causes of suffering are desire or craving, and ignorance – Lord Buddha.

6 comments:

Krithika Chandrashekar said...

My future mom in law just happened to differ with my above views. She spoke in terms of money which has become an investment and here and a big boost for our economy and so on. Just wanted to emphasize that my views above are more on the emotional side. I absolutely agree on most of the views she had, but somewhere emotionally, i strongly feel we definitely are in the wrong place!

GhorMaanas said...

answer to your doubt of why such an obsession in our society to 'settle abroad' ? may be its the pent up feelings of people of our country which are surfacing with full force, given that for many decades in the pre-independence era, travelling to foreign lands was considered inauspicious ! other than that, i dont see any logical reason for people to ditch the home-turf for, atleast in the present scenario, distant lands, where you've to prostrate yourself at the altar of money-god which, undoubtedly, blesses with moolah-prasadam, but also takes away a sizeable chunk of self and national respect as 'bhogam' !

(just a month or two back, a youth committed suicide in mumbai, after he was refused by his parents to pursue studies in australia, though he was given the options to study in europe or the USA. now who can explain to me that ?!)

but at the end, as in an overly-democratic nation (fortunately or unfortunately; its for you to decide), its the ultimate choice of an individual what s/he wishes to do with her/his life. dare i advice or suggest anyone, lest some free soul yells at me in return, in true Indian spirit - "kisi ke baap ka raaj hai kya" ?

Krithika Chandrashekar said...

Nice one Ankur! Yes it surely is someone's personal decision! As for guys committing suicide for such reasons, man I think I should write another blog :) Anyway thanks for sharing your thoughts!

Mihir jha said...

Hey Krithika,

You write very specific. I liked the style.

I have sent you a mail. Please check.

Unknown said...

hi krithika ! thx to you too for writing this article with such sincerity. i would really love to read your next blog too, once you're done with it...

Krithika Chandrashekar said...

Thanks Ankur :)